Sunday morning
I shouldn't be posting this on the Lord's day, but I overslept and have to drink my morning cup of coffee. While I'm sipping, I figured I could quickly post. :) Well, today is my husband's 'work' day. The church he pastors, Leitchfield Crossing Baptist Church, is an hour from the school (SBTS). There is also a time change. They're on Central time. So we leave here at 9:30 (our time) and we get there at 9:30 (their time). The only down side of Sundays there is that we have to stay there all day long. So there is no chance to go home and nap, or change into something comfortable (I'm stuck in hose and a dress for over 12 hours!). Right after church we have lunch...usually people invite us to eat last minute. (Like as we're walking out the door, someone will ask "Got anyplace to eat, Preacher?") There aren't many places to eat in Munfordville, either. Occasionally someone cooks for us. That's gotten pretty rare though. So after dinner, either Frankie goes visiting with a guy in the church, or we go visiting together. Last week, for instance, Frankie and I went visiting at the hospital. We met 4 or 5 people. It was pretty enjoyable.
Then when 4 or 5pm comes, Frankie meets with the "Associate Pastor" to talk for an hour. Then there's the youth meeting for an hour. Then Sunday evening services start. We always stand around talking after church and sometimes pay folks a quick visit afterwards. We get home around midnight. So that's our Sunday's.
Back in Kentucky
Well, I'm back in Louisville, KY as of 2am this morning. We left my parents house around 2pm, but we stopped by Frankie's parents house and he took me through Union, SC to see Cross Anchor (where his former church and parsonage are). We also stopped in Union at the John B. Long lake where Susan Smith murdered her two sons.
I had nightmares all last night. Miserable sleep. I had nightmares about Frankie and about my parents. Then I dreamed I failed the NCLEX, couldn't get a job, wasn't accepted into school. It was awful.
Frankie and I started a book yesterday on our drive back. From now on we're going to use our drive time to work on our first book. I hope it works out. Our goal is to have it completed by January 2007.
My website
http://abmelton.tripod.com/I think there's a link to Frankie's page there, too.
New Day
Last night Frankie & I went to visit Pine View Baptist Church in Chesterfield, SC. It's the church we were married in and the pastor & his wife are good friends of ours. The service went well and afterwards we stood around chatting with members. One guy, a rather smart gentleman that used to be a missionary, was a vegetarian we'd heard. My husband asked him about his dieting habits and he proceeded to direct us to
www.Hacres.com. He's on a biblical diet that consists of fruits and vegetables. He was on a diet for two years that consisted mainly of carrot juice. (ICK!) Anyway, we're going to attempt to follow some of the guidelines on the site: no meat, organic fruits & veggies, plenty of distilled water. I'm going to try to eliminate refined sugar from my diet altogether (though I'm presently drinking coffee with sugar...this is the last cup!). We're not certain if we're going to eliminate fish yet. The diet does, but since we're easing into it, we may continue to eat fish.
We've just gotten out of hand with our food! Frankie has gained 20-some lbs since May and I've gained about 13 since my wedding day...(of course I was nervous days before the wedding and didn't eat anything. I weighed myself before I put on my dress & was around 130.) Currently
I'm at an uncomfortable, disgusting, whopping 143.5lbs!
I feel so sluggish because of the extra weight and my clothes are so dreadfully tight! Anyway, we've been dieting since Jan 2 and Frankie has lost about 5lbs. I've only lost a couple.
We'll start on the veggie & fruit diet next week when we get to our place. Until then we'll try to eat healthy in SC!
The strong-willed, stubborn wife
A couple of weeks ago I took a class at the Seminary (Southern Baptist Theological Seminary)
Embracing Femininity. It was very interesting and informative.
The problem is that I find it hard to embrace my femininity a lot of the time. I mean, I do enjoy cooking and serving my husband in many ways. However, the models I've seen since childhood are completely contrary to how women are supposed to behave biblically. For example, my mom always made most of the decisions in the home. She decided my curfew, where/when I could go places, she controlled the finances/paid the bills, she determined what purchases were made, she decided where we'd go to church, what vehicles were purchased, etc. I don't remember my father making very many decisions. She always has the last word in an argument and she never really 'waits on' my dad...unless he's sick.
My grandmother is the same way with my grandfather. My aunt (mom's sister) doesn't even like her husband. My other aunts are all divorced. Many of them were/are big on women's liberation. Two of them were part of the "corporate world." They are all independent, tough women that roll their eyes at men and would snicker at housewives.
I suppose it's no wonder I often "buck" as my husband says. In all I suppose I'm doing relatively well in this new role.
First Post
Ok, so this is my first post of my new blog. :)
This week my husband & I are in South Carolina. We're getting in one last visit before his classes resume at the end of the month. I dread the drive back to Kentucky already.
So we got "home" Tuesday around 2am. Last night we had dinner with my parents then watched a little tv. My parents are in bed by 9pm, so Frankie & I were left to find entertainment for ourselves. We managed.
At 10am Frankie woke me up with "someone's knocking on the door!" I staggered to the door, then searched the house over...no one was home. Since it's very windy here I realized he likely just heard something hit the roof. I went back to the bedroom and he was already fast asleep again. At that point at was wide awake, so I just stayed up...that was two hours ago. He's still asleep.
I don't know what the plan is for today. I'm sure he'll want to go see his family. He saw his dad yesterday...he drove over there, but I stayed here. I wish our families lived closer together. I know I shouldn't complain...they are only an hour apart! It could be much worse.
Anyway, his sister is pregnant with twin girls due at the end of March. I guess I'll be an aunt. That's so weird since I'm an only child.
Of course her being pregnant (and the fact that two of their cousins are also pregnant and the fact that I'm 26) has made me think about having kids. Is there ever an ideal time to do things?
I guess since this is my first entry, I just have much to talk about.
Life in Kentucky: I've been in Louisville 5 months now. I think I like it.
I love our apartment. Of course, I always wish it was bigger and that we had more money to buy more furniture and things. And I wish Frankie wasn't such a packrat. But overall it's good. After Christmas we moved his study into the guest bedroom. Now the small study is vacant. As of yet, we haven't put a bed or anything in there, but the plan is to make it into a guest bedroom (if a bed will even fit in there).
As for the church: Leitchfield Crossing Baptist Church in Munfordville, KY.
I think all the people are pretty supportive of Frankie. As far as I know, no one really opposes him or causes any problems. Everyone has been kind to me as well, so I suppose it couldn't be better for a new pastor's wife. He only makes around $1000 a month, but it's really all the church can afford. Of course, he'd never leave for more money and the church gives so much to missions since he's been there. I think it's the best place for now.
